Thursday, October 11, 2012

Tomorrow, or One

Yippee!  Tomorrow.

Carol will be arriving on Virgin Atlantic Flight VS24.  I couldn't be more excited.  After more than 6 months of her being away, we will finally be reunited.

To celebrate, here are some things I think are appropriate. :)



Here are some songs entitled "Tomorrow:"
Or if I want to celebrate the number one:
The number one in different languages:
  • Arabic – واحد
  • Bulgarian – Един
  • Chinese – 之一
  • Croatian – Jedan
  • Czech – Jedna
  • Danish – Én
  • Dutch – Een
  • Finnish – Yksi
  • French – I'un
  • German – Ein
  • Greek – Ένας
  • Hindi – एक
  • Italian – Uno
  • Japanese - 1 つ
  • Korean – 한
  • Norwegian – En
  • Polish – Jeden
  • Portuguese – Um
  • Romanian – O
  • Russian – Один
  • Spanish – Uno
  • Swedish - En

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Two Days

Whoopie!  Carol will be home in two more days.  Two.  More.  Days.

To celebrate, here are some things about the number two (2).

Of course, can't forget the introductory School House Rock video.

  

Now onto the number two:

The number two in the Bible:
General:
My anticipation is starting to kill me.  :P  Can't wait.

Three Days

Three days before my wife is back in the United Kingdom.  To celebrate, here are some things regarding the number three, but first, how about a little (and awesome) diddly about the number three.


Now on to other things about the number three:
Three more days.  Can't wait.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Bitterness Becomes a Homecoming...Soon


Date: Wed, 26 Sep 2012 11:35:22 -0400

Dear Applicant,

Your appeal against your UK visa refusal has been reviewed by an Entry Clearance Manager.

The ECM has overturned the original decision and is satisfied you meet the requirements of the Immigration Rules. Your visa will now be issued.

If you submitted your passport at the time of appeal, your entry clearance will shortly be issued. You will receive an email notifying you of this and providing you with a return UPS tracking number.

If you did not submit your passport at the time of appeal please send it back to us as soon as possible in order for your entry clearance to be issued. The envelope should be clearly marked for the attention of the Appeals Officer. You should also enclose a money order for $12, payable to the British Consulate General, in order for your passport and visa to be returned to you via overnight delivery by UPS.

Kind Regards,

New York Visa Team
UK Border Agency
British Consulate-General
_____________________________________________________________

That was an email my wife received yesterday evening (morning for her).  After almost 6 months of being separated, my wife is finally close to being home.  Since we did not include her passport with the appeal, she will need to send the passport back to the embassy for them to process the actual visa.

5 months, 21 days.    174 total days.  4,176 hours.  250,560 minutes.

A long time.   Even though it isn't quite over, we know that it will be sooner rather than later.  Me, my wife and my kids along with all the friends and family who stated as such on facebook are very happy and excited with this wonderful news.

Almost 6 months of being separated is a very long time.  The world would look at this specific situation and put blame on the system.  But I know better.  The reason this ordeal was long and arduous was because of my heart.

You see, I've been harboring bitterness and hatred in my heart for a very long time.  This bitterness was revealed to me about 3 weeks ago.  I was talking with a friend at my church.  I was explaining to him the frustration I was feeling because of the delay with the appeal.  I mentioned to him how I was thinking about calling the Citizen's Advice Bureau (CAB), probe my Member of Parliament, contact a lawyer that deals with immigration & visa, and even contact the media.  I was so fed up with the situation that I was desperate to do anything.

This friend of mine prayed with me.  However, not only did he pray that the Lord would overcome the hurdles the process put up, but he also prayed that the Lord would take away the bitterness from my heart.  He laid hands on my chest and urged the Lord to soften my heart.

I was dumbstruck.

That Monday, I tried to contact the CAB without any success.  I then tried to contact a lawyer via email, only to have them respond that the solicitor who handled immigration issues was on maternity leave and wouldn't be back until April next year.

I was prepared to start an email to two major news outlets here in Britain, with me CCing my MP in the email, when the prayer from that past Sunday popped into my mind.  I realized at that moment that I didn't need to do anything.  All the things I was trying to do was out of bitterness.  Instead of making a mess of things by contacting the media, or other means that might cost me a fortune, the Lord reminded me that I just need to release everything to Him.  Which I did.

I prayed that the Lord would just give me a peace about this, and help soften my heart.  After that quick prayer, I truly did feel at peace.

Later that evening, a letter from HM Courts & Tribunal Service was on my door step when I got home from work.  It was a letter stating that the Respondent  (the British Embassy from NY) had reversed their decision and withdrew the appeal.  My heart jumped.

When I called the hotline on the letter, I was informed that officially the only thing they could say was that the appeal was withdrawn.  However, the girl did say that 90% of the time in a situation like this was because the embassy was going to issue the visa.  She told me to expect something from the embassy soon.

So we waited.

Days became a week.  A week became two.   I could feel the frustration building.  What was taking so long?

On Tuesday, during lunch, I prayed again.  Lord, take this bitterness from me.  Soften my heart.  Give me peace again regarding this situation.

Wednesday, after I got home from work, I get a facebook chat message from Carol that she received the above email. 

Too many coincidences for this just to be by chance.  I can't believe that.  This truly has to be the Lord's work.

I know that I have a long way to go before I'm at the point where the Lord truly wants me.  But one thing I do know.  This separation was not only because of a bureaucratic process.  It was also due to the Lord dealing with a bitter man.  This bitter man.

For that, I thank Him.


Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Bitterness in the Heart

As many of you are aware, my wife, Carol, is currently in the United States awaiting her settlement visa from the British government.

The initial application was refused because there was no evidence supplied that I was a British citizen.  What happened was I thought I sent Carol along with my birth certificate, but I didn't, and it wasn't known until after the refusal when I was able to account for all the copies of my birth certificate here with me in England.

So we submitted an appeal, and since they requested only copies of supporting documentation, I provided my wife with scanned copies of my birth certificate and UK passport.


Weeks turned into a month, and then it was two months.  The frustration of the wait, and not knowing what was going on was building.  I was getting desperate.  

I was prepared to contact the media (the Guardian and the Independent).  I was also prepared to contact the Citizens Advice Bureau.  

I was talking with a wonderful man at church (Rob).  I was explaining to him everything I was prepared to do, and about the mounting frustration I was feeling.  He asked to pray for me.  Not only did he pray that the Lord would overcome the hurdles put in place by bureaucracy but he also prayed that the Lord would prevent bitterness from building up in my heart.

Then it struck me.  That is exactly what I was allowing to happen.  The frustration from the process caused me to become bitter towards the British government. 

On Monday, as I was still contemplating sending emails to the Guardian and the Independent, and lawyers, and probing my MP (member of Parliament), etc.  I stopped.  I prayed that the Lord would just give me a peace about this entire situation and not allow the bitterness to creep into my heart.

That evening when I got home, there was a letter from HM Courts & Tribunal Service saying that the Respondent (UK Embassy in NYC) had reversed the original decision and that the Tribunal was satisfied that the appeal had been withdrawn.  Of course, in excitement, I called the hotline the very next day.  Unfortunately, the person was not able to provide me with any official status outside the fact that the appeal was withdrawn by the respondent.  However, she did say that 90% of the time this was because they planned on providing a visa.

I received the Appeal Withdrawal notice on the 10th of September.  It has now been two weeks since, again with no further details.  Again the frustration is starting to creep in.  And with the frustration, the bitterness as well.

So, I am appealing to all my brothers and sisters in Christ that they will pray for me.  Pray that the Lord will help me stave off this bitterness and to again give me the peace regarding this situation.  Bitterness only leads to darkness and I can't afford to fall into darkness again.  For my children's sake, my wife's sake and for my marriage sake, pray for me.

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Depressing...

As many of you know, last May, I left my wife and kids in Virginia and left for England.  During the 5 months of us being separated, I applied for my National Insurance Number, my UK passport, applied for Job Seekers (unemployment for you US readers), updated my CV (resume), submitted that CV to hundreds of job adverts, found a job, and found a place to live.

My wife and my children arrived in the UK in early October of 2011.  Also during those 5 months, I've contacted the UK Border Agency numerous times about how to apply for a visa for my wife (my kids are British by decent).  After almost 8 months of calling and receiving different answers, my wife and I finally found the answer regarding my wife's visa.  She would have to go back to the United States in order to apply for the visa.

So, on the 6th of April, 2012, my wife left for California.

My wife submitted her application for her visa in either late April or early May (I can't remember, exactly).  Then started the waiting...without knowing.  You see, according to the website, you aren't able to call and receiving a status until after the 90 day processing time.  So for 90 days we can only wait, and pray.

On the 25th of June, my wife received a Refusal of Entry Clearance letter from the British Embassy in New York City.  Apparently they didn't have substantial evidence of my British nationality.  My birth certificate was not among the documentation that was sent back to my wife.  We don't know what happened.  Somehow my birth certificate was not part of the supporting documentation, and thus the embassy didn't have substantial evidence of my nationality.  So the refused the visa.

Part of the refusal was a form for an appeal, which we filled out.  They asked for copies of any supporting documentation to be sent with the appeal form.  So I scanned my British passport and my British birth certificate and emailed them to my wife so she can send them along with the appeal form.


On the 2nd of August, my wife received the Notice of Pending Appeal, which states that the Tribunal has received our notice of appeal against the refusal and that they will send the appeal to the embassy in New York to prepare for the appeal. This process is expected to take 19 weeks; the letter stated that they will contact us after 13 December, 2012.  19 WEEKS!  However, this is only the preparation period.  During this period, if the Embassy decides to cancel the appeal and grant the visa, then the process is finished.  My wife can come home.  If they feel we still don't have adequate proof of my nationality, then an appeal hearing will be scheduled and an appeal will start.  The typical processing time for an appeal is 6 to 12 months.  MONTHS!

This might be the first time in 18 years of marriage where we will be separated for Christmas.

We do have options.  We could cancel the appeal, gather up all current supporting documentation and reapply for a visa.  The only downside to this, is that the visa will cost us another £810, which I have, but will hurt us financially.  Or we can wait out the appeal process.

I have never been more and more frustrated.

I've contacted my local member of parliament regarding this situation.  So far, the only response I've received was " I have emailed the MP’s Liaison Unit at the UK Border Agency to ask for an update on your case."  That was on the 16th of August.   So of course, I have to wait again.  Without knowing what is going on.

Friend from work mentioned that I contact either the Guardian or the Independent, two major newspapers in the UK.  I'm not sure I want to do that.  The last thing I want to do is burn any bridges.

Tomorrow I am going to call the Citizens Advice Bureau to see what, if any, legal means I can go through.


Granted, even though the frustration level is very high at the moment and I feel like I need to do something, I do know that God is in control and there is a reason for this.  Maybe all he wants for me to just wait.  I don't know.  I wished I did.  All I want is my wife to be back at my side and I am continually praying that my wife will be allowed to be there soon.

Monday, July 23, 2012

Penn State punishment not harsh enough...

The NCAA has handed out their punishment of Penn State University for the Sandusky child sex abuse scandal.  Post after post is appearing on my facebook newsfeed and Penn State is starting to trend on twitter.

Here are key points of the punishment with my comment for each.

1.  A four-year postseason ban. - Really?  A 4 year ban on bowls?  That man sexually abused children, and the school knew and allowed it to continue for OVER a decade and they ban the school for 4 years?  Personally it should have been one year for each of the years they allowed Sandusky to freely continue abusing children.

2.  $60 million fine, which will be used to create a foundation for abused children. - This seems fair to me.

3.  Penn State will be forced to cut 10 scholarships for this season and 20 scholarships for the following four years. - I personally HATE sports scholarships.  Universities should be about academics, not sports.  I only wished they would cut them all.

4.  Penn State will be forced to vacate all wins from 1998 to 2011. - This just doesn't make any sense to me.  The games were played, despite the horrendous activities occurring in the background.  Why remove them?

I personally feel sorry for the students because they will probably feel the brunt of this with hikes to their tuition to make up for the revenue loss from Penn State losing all the TV money from not being in the bowls for the next four years.

Friday, July 20, 2012

Maybe it's time...

"Mass shooting at Batman screening" or "Dark Night: Mass Shooting at Batman Movie Premiere."  These are two headlines of hundreds, if not thousands of news stories flying through the internet.  I'm seeing them being posted on twitter, facebook, reddit.

I can't imagine the horror these people went through in those very short few minutes.  They only wanted to watch a highly anticipated movie.  Instead some nut job with, what some believe, a shotgun and some tear gas murdered 12 people in cold blood and wounded dozens more.

As with all horrific stories the gun control debate rises up.  Social media sites become a shouting match, some against gun control, and what seems like most, for gun control.

An American citizen has a constitutional right to buy and own pistols, rifles or shot guns.   The 2nd Amendment. Before moving back to the United Kingdom, I, personally, was issued a concealed carry permit from the Commonwealth of Virginia and owned a Smith & Wesson Sigma 40VE (which I carried concealed) pistol and a Walther P22 pistol (which I used mainly for range shooting because the ammunition was cheaper).  I loved firing the pistols and I loved carrying them, and I loved owning them.  It was a sad day for me when I eventually had to sell them because the United Kingdom has a no tolerance policy for pistols and revolvers.

A few weeks ago there was a major national news story in the United Kingdom about a gunman running around in Essex which is the next county south of where I live.  It was on the radio and all over the British news sites online.  I was amazed because in the United States, this story would have barely made the local news stations, let alone nationally.

It got me to thinking.  Gun violence in the United States is common.  Richmond, Virginia is a city of just over 200,000 people in it [link].  This year alone roughly 30 people have been murdered.  Most of these appear to be gun related crimes.  One of these was a dispute over $20.  TWENTY ******* DOLLARS!  Take a look at the map that NBC12 in Richmond is hosting.  Each one of those blue markers represents a homicide in the Richmond area.  I think I counted 25.  25 deaths in an area that contains a little over 200,000 people.  Percentage wise that isn't a lot, but how do you judge the value of a life?  Each one of those men and women were someone's brother, sister, daughter or son, or a husband or wife.  A loved one.  Despite the circumstances leading to each death, each one is a sad story.  Today is the 208 day in the year 2012.  Richmond is averaging a death every 8th day.  By the end of 2012 there will be roughly 20 more deaths. 

This commonality of gun violence in the United States has numbed us to it.  It happens so frequently.  The only reason last nights shooting is such large news is because of the scale of it.  If you spread that over the last 7 months, it wouldn't warrant a small blurb in the local newspaper.

So, my question is, why not have gun control?  Isn't life more important than a small amount of plastic and metal?

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

We are all sinners...


George Takei, renowned actor who played Hikaru Sulu on Star Trek, who is openly gay, linked the above photo on facebook, who are the first gay couple to have a civil union performed on a military base.  As with all things controversial, comments started to pour in.  Some wishing the couple well being, some calling them disgusting, and others bashing those with the opposing views.

The constant bantering from both sides of the fence is starting to become frustratingly annoying.  They are completely missing the point.

As a Christian, I don't look at this photo with disgust.  I look at it in sadness.  Not because they are gay, but because they are lost.  Are they any better or worse than I am?  No.  We are ALL sinners in the eyes of God.  In Romans (3:23): "For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God's glorious standard."  The last I looked, the word "everyone" encompasses just that.  Everyone.  I am included int hat list, and so are you, and so are these two gentlemen pictured.  If we all have fallen short of God's standard, how can we judge? Jesus said that if we even looked upon another with anger, then we have murdered in our hearts (Mat 5:21-22), or if we look upon another with lust, then we have committed adultery in our hearts (Mat 5:27-28).

Is homosexuality a sin?  Yes, according to the bible it is.  But so is anger, lust, stealing, murder, adultery, etc.  The list goes on and on.  The point isn't about whether or not gay marriage is right, or wrong.  It is about lost souls.  We, as Christians, are commanded to go out and preach the gospel.  Not to judge, but to spread God's love and acceptance through Jesus Christ our Lord.

So, instead of looking at photos like the one above with hatred or disgust and judge, look at it with sadness and pray.  Pray that the Lord will reveal Himself to these deserving gentlemen. 

Can we stop with the debates about gay marriage?  The argument is not important.  What is important, is spreading the gospel and praying for the lost.

Monday, July 9, 2012

Separation and Loneliness

As many of you know, or maybe you don't, my wife had to leave the United Kingdom in order to apply for her settlement visa.  She's been gone since April 6th, 2012.  Three months we've been separated.

Since May 21st, 2011, my wife and I have been separated for a total of 8 months.  Last May, I left Virginia for the UK at the suggestion, and willingness of me, in order to settle.  My wife didn't arrive in the UK until October 7th, 2011.  That is 139 days of separation.  Since my wife did not have a settlement visa, she was only allowed entrance to the country for 6 months on a visitation visa.  During that time we knew that she would probably have to go back to the United States to apply for the permanent settlement visa.  However, we always hoped that we would be able to avoid that.

However, after constant probing and asking and more probing of the UK Border Agency, we finally received an ultimate answer.  Yes, she would have to leave.

That fateful day arrived on April 6th, 2012.  Today is July 9th, 2012.  Separated for 94 days and counting.  Since that day in May, we've been separated for 233 days.  That is roughly 64% of the past year.  A very long time.

Due to all this separation, I feel that the Lord has done some amazing work.  First of all, I'm back in His fold.  Not only is my walk much stronger than it was over a year ago, but I'm also consistently going back to church and participating in home group.  This is a huge improvement than when I first left Virginia.  However, I also know that the Lord is still working in my life and I have a long ways to go before I am the man He wants me to be.

Secondly, I am starting gather a much deeper appreciation for my lovely wife.  It is funny how you tend to take things for granted until they are taken away from you.  Don't get me wrong, I have always, and will always love my wife.  She is a wonderful woman and I am very fortunate to have her as my wife, partner and friend.

However, despite this love, I haven't been the greatest of husbands.  My temper has caused me to lash out against my wife in ways that was hardly fair to her.  For those incidents I am deeply sorry, and wished I could take back.  Unfortunately I can't.  The Lord is working on my temper, but I am far from being where I need to be.  But we are constantly a work in progress.  I continue to pray, and I am sure my wife is as well, that the Lord will change my nature, because only He can.  I know I sure can't.

Saturday night, my loneliness for my wife really hit me.  I miss her so much.  8 months of separation, albeit not continuous, is a long time.  I miss waking up next to her.  I miss her hair constantly tickling my nose when we sleep.  I miss her warmth.  I miss the smile she gives me.  I miss her laughing at the stupidest and silliest of things.  I miss her attempts at jokes and failing miserably.

So I pray, Lord, please give the UK Border Agency a good kick in the ass and have them grant her visa quickly.  I miss my wife and want her back at my side.  I know my kids do as well.  Amen.

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

July 4th

There is a trend regarding how people wish greetings on holidays that I'm not liking.

Today is the 4th of July.  For most of the world, today is just the 4th day of the month of July.  For the United States and its territories it is Independence Day (Rwanda is celebrating Liberation Day and Tonga is celebrating King Tupou VI's Birthday - Link).  Today is a celebration of the day that our Founding Fathers signed one of the most important documents in the history of the United States.  It was a letter, a declaration, to the King of England declaring that the people of the colonies wanted to be free and independent.

This document symbolizes the freedoms and liberties that are granted to us as citizens.  Instead of greeting each other with "Happy Independence Day, or Happy Freedom Day" I am instead seeing "Happy 4th of July."

I'm sorry, but the 4th of July is only a day, just like any other day.  It is like saying "Happy 3rd of August" to someone.  It means absolutely nothing.

By saying "Happy 4th of July" we are denigrate the significance of the event that occurred on July 4th, 1776.  Today's date is more than just a date, it represents our way of life and we shouldn't cheapen it.

So, Happy Independence Day everyone.

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Evolution of Musical Tastes

I love music, almost all music.

The first album I ever owned was AC/DC's "Back in Black."  This album became the gateway for me into the Heavy Metal of the 80s when I was in high school.  I started to listen to bands like AC/DC, Led Zeppelin, Rainbow, Iron Maiden, Anthrax, Metallica, Ratt, Quiet Riot, Twisted Sister, and the list went on and on.  I primarily only listened to Heavy Metal back then.  You would have never caught me actively listening to bands like The Eurythmics, Duran Duran, Thompson Twins or similar bands.  Yes, I knew about them, but I wouldn't go out and buy one of their tapes or records.

At the beginning of the next decade, the 90s, I found I was listening to more Grunge and Punk bands.  However, I continued listening to the great Heavy Metal bands of the 70s and 80s.  So my repertoire of bands grew as I added bands like U2, Nirvana, Tool, Nine Inch Nails, The Sex Pistols and Siouxie Sioux & the Banchees.  I also started to appreciate bands that I didn't normally listen to and saw what they provided to music in general.  Bands like Duran Duran and the Eurythmics.

Now, here I am in my 40s and I find that my library radio station on Last.fm consists of bands ranging from Haste the Day to the Thompson twins.  Funny how as people grew up and mature so do their music tastes.

I still can't stand country or rap, though.  I probably never will like them.

Wife's Visa

Good News!  Okay, well not necessarily good news, just news.

As most of you know, my wife had to go back to the United States in order to apply for her settlement visa to the United Kingdom.  She submitted the form late April.  So after two months she received a request for more information.  Apparently, either they lost my birth certificate or I forgot to send one along with my wife to include in the supporting documentation, because they are requesting proof that I am a British national.

So due to this shortsightedness, I need to provide proof of my nationality ... AND pay a processing fee of £80.  Which might not seem like a lot, but that is on top of the already paid  £810.   Yeah, it hurts when I sit down.

At least we know they are doing something with the application; that is more than what we had known for the last two months.  I'm hoping that shortly after they receive this additional information we'll hear word from them.  I'm getting excited.  It'll be nice to have my wife back home again.

Monday, June 25, 2012

Trees ...

are not bicycle racks.  Those things, under the red arrow, across the street, are.  Please use them.


Friday, June 22, 2012

Writing

I started this blog at the beginning of May.  In May, I wrote 14 posts, an average of one every other day.  In June, three.

Yeah, I need to write more. :)

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Granny, Family and Salvation

Many of you don't know this, but over the Queen's Jubilee celebration weekend, my Granny, Irene Kieffer passed away suddenly.  The shock of the passing was the suddenness of it.  The day before she was shopping; the next day, she had passed.

My Aunt Christine organized the funeral, which was this past Wednesday.  I have to say that it was lovely.  It was exactly what I would have pictured Granny wanting for her funeral.  First of all, Christine had asked us not to wear black.  Granny had always hated funerals so Chris, didn't want this one to be depressing.  Sad, yes, because we had lost a loved one -- but depressing, no.

The service opened up with a Nat King Cole song, which I learned was one of the Granny's favorite singers.  Please enjoy...
Ahhh, they just don't write them like that any more...

During the appreciation and celebration of Granny's life, Chris read us a short synopsis of her life.  I learned some things about Granny that I found fascinating.  I knew that she had been born in London and had spent her younger years there; what I didn't know was that her family ran an illegal booking shop, which moved into the country when they were forced to leave London due to the bombings during WWII.  Hehe, I never knew that my Granny's family were "gansta."  She was "OG." :)

Chris continued to share Granny's love for family, the outdoors, and people in general.  She shared anecdotes about Granny, my mom, and her brothers.  She shared about how my Granny finally passing her driving test after the fourth try, and how happy she was about that.  Granny was truly a wonderful woman who loved life.  

After a few hymns and more words by the pastor running the service, Chris had closed out the service on a lighter note.

NOTE:  I'm going to see if I can get a copy of Christine's eulogy and post it here.  It truly brought out the person who Granny was.

After the memorial service, we spent the better part of the day reminiscing with the family at my Uncle Robert's house.  My sister brought a box of photos that she had found at Granny's when they were clearing her house.  We spent a good few hours poring through those photos, pointing and laughing at each other when an "embarrassing" younger photo of us cropped up.  It was all in good fun.
 
Due to the death of my Granny and because of the funeral.  Memories came back that I didn't know I had.  All the times I remember about her were good times.  Even though I didn't stay in touch with my British family over the past 25+ years because I was living in the United States, and because I am just horrible with basic correspondence, I still loved her and will miss her dearly.  

One thing that really keeps cropping up in my mind isn't an actual memory of my Granny; it is actually a recollection of a conversation between my Granny and my youngest sister.   Granny was visiting my youngest sister to watch her eldest daughter get confirmed.  On the way home, Granny was talking about confirmations, and asked my sister whether or not she will "go to the same place" that Grandad went if she wasn't confirmed.  My sister responded, "It is what you believe, not a ceremony, that determines where you go afterwards."

My sister probably doesn't know how right she was in that answer.  Where you go, heaven or hell, is definitely determined by what you believe, and not what you do.  

According to Romans 3:23: "For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God."  Because we are human, we aren't perfect.  However, since God is perfect, we fall short.  We all have sinned, and will continue to sin, because we are fallen creatures.  God created us to worship him, but since He cannot tolerate sin, and we are sinners, we aren't able gain access to Him in order to worship Him.  Kind of a Catch-22.  Because of our sin, we are cursed to death.  Romans 6:23a states "For the wages of sin is death..."

However, God provided a solution to this curse in the second half of Rom 6:23: "...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord."  How did he grant us this gift?  By providing His perfect son, Jesus, as a living sacrifice for us.  Romans 5:8 states: "God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us."  Jesus -- perfect man, wholly God allowed Himself to die so that we don't have to.  This sacrifice is beyond anything we can imagine. Jesus paid for our sins, so we won't have to.  What an awesome gift that is!

While Jesus paying for our sins on the cross is enough, Romans 10:9 says that we have to confess that Jesus is Lord, that He died and was then resurrected again.  "[T]hat if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved."

Romans 8:1 says that "there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus."  If we confess our sins and accept what Christ did, then we will have eternal life.  I wholeheartedly believe that.  I really do.

Yes, I know that I'm far from being a perfect Christian, and am probably not the best witness in the world for Christ.  But I continue asking the Holy Spirit to give me the words and actions to be that witness.  And I wished I was around to explain to my Granny that so she wouldn't have any doubt about that.  I wasn't.  I do know that God is faithful and is able to reveal Himself to anyone who is looking for the true answer.  I believe that Granny was, I believe that the Lord revealed Himself to her, and I believe that she accepted.  Because of that, I believe that I'll see her again in heaven.

Now, my prayer is that the Lord will give me the boldness, words and actions to help me bring any of my family members who don't know Him into His fold.

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Language settings...

I was born in England, and according to British laws, I am British by birth.  However, my father was a US serviceman, so was raised as an American, and spent all of my adult life in the United States.


Recently, due to unforeseen circumstances, I have now relocated back to England.  


This has caused a little bit of annoying "problems."


First, when I started working here, I was given a British keyboard.  Now, please look at the two layouts below.
British Keyboard Layout
United States Keyboard Layout
As you can see, they are primarily the same keyboard.  However, please look at the differences.   And these cause issues for someone like me.  For example, while using a British keyboards, I would consistently hit "\" when I am trying to add a capital letter, because the left shift is half the size and the add the | \ key next to the Z.  Or when I think I am hitting Enter, I keep adding a # character instead.  This apparently small differences can completely throw off someone who has been using the same keyboard layout for roughly 25 years. 


So, I went to Amazon.co.uk, ordered two US keyboards for about £5 each.  So now I am using a US keyboard, and changed the language settings on Windows to use English (US) to that it would know that I am using the correct keyboard.


There is ONE slight annoyance for doing this...when I boot up the computers.  The IT department have various scripts that run during boot up.  All of these scripts use English (UK).  Due to this, I have to pretend I am using a British keyboard when I first login.  Once I login, my roaming profile takes over and the system thinks I use English (US).   


You see, from my time working in the Department of Defense field for 10 years, I've gotten into the have gotten into the habit of using strong passwords.  So I use special characters, along with numerals and upper & lower case letter.  Well as you can see, because of the differences in the placement of special characters I have to think twice before character selection.  For example, if I use "$" in a password, I have a slight problem during my initial login after a reboot, or boot up.  Mainly because there isn't a "$" on a British keyboard.  So, I either have to remember its ALT code, or I have to use another symbol.  As I mentioned, a slight annoyance, but easily handled.


Another slight annoyance is...date formatting.  In the United States the format is MM/DD/YYYY.  However, here in England the format is DD/MM/YYYY.  Question: Why isn't there an international date format?


Regardless of where I live, 03/07/2012 should always mean the same thing.  Is this March 7th, 2012?  Or is this July 3rd, 2012?  Doesn't matter, should always be one or the other, not both depending on which chunk of earth I happen to reside.


You see, this particular issue continues to bite me in the ass.  I use Google Docs (now Google Drive) for a variety of things, one of the things I've been using it for is as an account log book (ie, check book).  Google docs, unlike MS   Office only provides you with formatted dates based on the language settings you have set for your Google profile.  This bugs me.  You see, I want my language to be English (US) for things like spell check.  Because I want to use "color" vs "colour."  Or "check" vs "cheque."  But because of work, and such, I want the date to be in the British format (DD/MM/YYYY) rather than in the US format (MM/DD/YYYY) but I can't.

Now granted, this particular rant should be against Google for not allowing a mish mash whenever it comes to data formatting within a spreadsheet, but I still think that there should be an international standard for formatting something that we all use...such as date.

Monday, June 11, 2012

New Bicycling Commuter - Equipment

First of all, please let me apologize for the lack of posts. I've recently obtained Skyrim for my PS3 (yes, I know a bit late) and have been playing it like crazy. :)

Okay, now to the post I wish to actually write. As most of you are aware, I ride my bicycle to work each and every day. Rain or shine, and not as of yet ... snow.

If you do research you will find blog after blog or site after site explaining all the different bicycles you can use for commuting, and all the different clothing or equipment. It can be very daunting if you are even considering starting to commuting on a bicycle instead of a car or public transport. Not only can it be daunting, but I personally think that it can be a deterrent, because the bicycles, clothing and equipment these blogs/sites list can cost thousands of pounds.

You don't need to go out and buy a £1000 bicycle or spend hundreds of pounds on riding clothing. You don't need special equipment, or gear to commute.

There is only one thing you need in order to commute: a bicycle.

It also doesn't have to be an expensive bicycle. I personally am using a 1994 Claude Butler Quantum mountain bicycle that I found on Gumtree for £40.

The next thing I suggest you buying, which isn't required, but recommended, is a decent helmet.  You don't need anything fancy, or expensive.  Just something that fits comfortably, and has enough vents to keep your head cool if you ever plan on riding for exercise rather than for commuting.  Prices for helmets can range from £10 to £150+.  Remember, cheaper helmets will protect your noggin just as well as the expensive ones, the price is normally dictated by design, brand and comfort.   As I mentioned before, not required, I just think it is smart to protect that brain dome of yours as you start to weave in and out of traffic that is consisting of 1500 lbs vehicles.

As for clothing, there is only one thing I suggest you buy, especially in sunny England :P, a set of waterproof clothes to put over your work clothes.  I bought mine from Millets for about £20 for a jacket and a pair of pants (trousers for you British).  If you go this route ensure you buy them large enough to go over whatever clothing you would normally wear to work.

Or if you don't want to wear waterproof clothing over your normal work clothes on those yucky days, another way is to invest in a good waterproof bag that would be large enough to contain your clothes and just wear workout clothing for your clothing.  This set of bags from Amazon.co.uk are perfect and the prices for the set of four is great as well.

As for gear, a good backpack is essential for your beginner commuter.  You'll want to be able to carry the stuff you normally take with you in the car, so the backpack needs to be large enough to carry those items.  Hehe, I got my backpack from my sister, so it didn't cost me anything.

So, if we go through our list of items needed to start commuting:
  • Bicycle - £40 to £150 will buy you a great reliable bicycle to start
  • Clothing - wet weather gear - £20 to £40
  • Waterproof bags (Optional) - £25 to £50
  • Backpack - £15 to £40
So, to start you can spend anywhere from £100 to £200 to start.  Now these numbers aren't so daunting are they?

As you commute more consistently you will find you will purchase additional items to make things easier.  For example, the first thing I did with my bicycle is change the tires from the knobbly MTB tires to tires that are better suited for road riding.  These road tires were also have a reinforced strip of kevlar to help prevent punctures (LIFE SAVER!).  I also bought a decent bicycle pump to mount to the frame.

I have also bought a rear rack and a set of panniers because I was getting tired of my back getting soaked with sweat from me carrying a backpack. :P

So the moral of the story is, don't do any research if you want to start commuting on a bicycle.  Just go out and buy yourself a bicycle and do.

UPDATE:  I forgot, if you plan on commuting during the winter months, especially in the UK, then you will need a set of lights for your bicycle, white up front and red in the back.  These are essential, and I think even required by law in the UK.  I bought mine from Halfords for about £18.  Also, you should invest in a hivis vest, which I bought from B&Q for £5. 

PS.  As always, please leave a comment giving me pointers or feedback regarding this post, or this blog in general.  Thank you. - Paul

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

The adventures of bicycling to work...

I bicycle to work, for a number of reasons. One, if I drove it would take me longer, and cost more because in the United Kingdom, there aren't that many free parking areas, and definitely aren't any that are close to where I work. Two, it is the fastest form of transportation.

However, because I don't want to be perceived as one of those "asshole bikers" people tend to think, I obey the rules of the road. First, I don't ride on the side walk unless it is marked for both pedestrians and bicycles, with a sign like this one.


I try to obey traffic rules to the best of my ability. I stop at red lights, pedestrian or otherwise. I yield at roundabouts, I stay in the bicycle lane if I am able and I use arm signals to allow drivers to know what my intentions are.

However, I've learned very quickly that if I plan on surviving, I need to break the rule occasionally because some drivers are either completely unaware of us, or they just plain hate us. I've had cars pull out in front of me, both at night and during the day, and with each occasion of this happening, I was wearing my bright yellow high visibility reflective vest, and at night, with my lights on set to strobe. In all but one of the situations of drivers pulling out in front of me, I avoided a collision by going up onto the sidewalk. The one incident, I actually had enough time to stop.

I've had one guy veer into a clearly marked bicycle lane because he was angry that I was speeding past cars standing still in traffic. The only reason I know the guy did it on purpose is because when I was forced to stop behind him, he leaned out the window and laughed. He then moved back into the car lane, allowing me to pass him, again laughing at me through his opened passenger window.

I had one lady brush into me, THREE TIMES, as she passed by me when traffic for her started moving again. This particular incident, I hate to admit, I actually snapped and confronted the lady when she was yet again sitting in traffic. The only reason I know it was the same lady was because of her silly "baby on board" sign stuck to her rear window.

Since I've actually started to live in Ipswich, since late last September, I've gradually become more and more of a aggressive bicyclist. Not one of those "asshole bikers" that people tend to have a hatred to, but one that tends to force drivers to slow down, stop or avoid getting close to me.

I do this by a number of ways. When going through roundabouts, I am in the middle of the lane, not along the edge of the roundabout. The reason I do this is because it prevents cars wondering if I'm going to go through an exit or take an exit off the roundabout. With me in the middle of the lane, it forces cars behind me to wait for me to exit. As always, I clearly use arm signals to indicate my intentions to drivers around me, but unlike them, I can't keep my arm up as I am navigating through a roundabout. Yes, I know that this behavior of mine is probably considered annoying to drivers, because they have to wait a few seconds more to go through the roundabout but I feel it is safer for me, because I take up space not allowing a driver to come up beside me, and potentially cutting me off as they exit a roundabout ahead of me.

I also have learned to split lane, or whatever they call it in England. I do this for two main reasons. One, cars tend to hug the curb in traffic, and two, drivers also tend to look in their driver side mirrors more than their passenger side one. This means that I have a higher probability of being seen by drivers. Now, I understand that this might seem more dangerous because I am riding into the opposite side traffic, but since cars tend to hug the curbs more in traffic than when traffic is moving, I have plenty of room without having to moving into the opposing lanes.

I love riding my bicycle. I now ride roughly 10 miles each morning as exercise before taking a quick shower and then jumping back on that same bicycle to head to work. I also want to obey all traffic laws to the best of my ability. I also want to be safe, I have a wife and 4 kids to take care of. If I have to become another "asshole biker" or annoy some drivers for a few seconds to be safe, then I will do so.

So one bicyclist to other bicyclist, I say, please, try to obey the laws as much as possible to remove the "asshole biker" tag that so many drivers have for us. Also, as a bicyclist to drivers, I say, please watch out for us. We are riding 20 to 30lbs bicycles and will never win in a collision with your 2000 to 3000 lbs vehicle. We also have the same right to be on the road as you do.

Be safe everyone.



Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Sinking Ship?

Today is Tuesday the 15th of May, 2012.

Less than 3 days ago, the Washington Capitals lost game 7 against the New York Rangers making it the fifth consecutive season that the Capitals failed to get past the 2nd round in the playoffs.  Since that loss, Dale Hunter, has announced that he is going back to London (Ontario) saying that he wants to go back to his family, his farm and his junior hockey club he co-owns with his brother.

Tomas Vokoun implies that he won't be back next season.

Also, according to statements from his agent, there's a good chance that Alexander Semin will also be gone.

Rats jumping off a sinking ship?  Who is next?

Monday, May 14, 2012

Capitals Loss

Here it is on Monday, a day and a half after the Washington Capitals lost to the New York Rangers in Game 7 of the second round of the playoffs (Conference Semifinals).  And the pain of disappointment is still with me.

For five straight years, the Capitals made it to the finals, and for five straight years they cannot make it past the Conference Semifinals.  Now, for the fourth straight year, a major disappointment.

I became a fan of the Washington Capitals during the 2003 - 2004 NHL season when a friend of mine took me to my first ice hockey game.  I was immediately hooked.  Based on proximity, I became a fan of the Capitals.  During those first years of my fandom, the Capitals were not a very good team.  However, despite not having the skill to compete against other teams, these Capitals were a hard working bunch that gave some of those more skilled teams fits.  They were a team to be proud of.

During the 2007 - 2008, the Capitals' owner, Ted Leonsis, declared that the 5 year rebuild plan they implemented was over.  The first half of the season the Capitals were majorly under-performing and fired their head coach, Glen Hanlon.  Bruce Boudreau, comes in as interim coach, saves the day to not only get the first playoff berth in five seasons, but their first Southeast Division title since they claimed the title in 2001.  To claim the title the Capitals won 11 out of their last 12 games, clinching the title on the last game of the regular season, beating the Florida Panthers 3 - 1.  It was a tremendous run.  It was such a fun time to be a Capitals fan.

They eventually lost their first round playoff series against the Philadelphia Flyers in 7 games.  After the series, even though I was disappointed, I was proud of what the Capitals had done.

The next season, they make it to the Conference Semifinals against the dread Pittsburgh Penguins.  They forced a game 7 after allowing the Penguins to go up 3-2 in the series.  In game 7, the Capitals completely stunk up the joint and lost the game 6-2.   It wasn't disappointment I felt after the loss, it was anger.  These guys were getting payed millions of dollars only to lay a major egg against one of the most hated teams in the league.  It was disgusting.

In the 2009-2010 season, the Capitals posted a franchise record of 121 points and the franchise's first President's Trophy.  This was the same season that the Capitals scored 313 goals, 56 more goals than the next best team.  Their opening series was against the Montreal Canadiens who had barely squeaked into the playoffs.  After the Capitals lost the first game against the Canadiens, they went on to lose the next three games to go up 3-1 in the series...only to lose the next three games to lose the series.  The highest scoring team in the league, averaging a whopping 3.82 goals per game during the regular season, and a even more of a whopping 4.75 goals per game in the first four games of the series were only able to put up 5 goals in the next three.  It was frustrating, aggravating and infuriating.  I couldn't have been more angry against this team.

Then came the next season (2010-2011).  The Capitals won yet another SE division title and even became the #1 seed for the playoffs.  They dominated the Rangers in the first round winning the series 4-1.  Only to be swept in the next round against the Tampa Bay Lightning.  Again, it was aggravating and infuriating.

Now I come to this season.  The Capitals had a mediocre regular season, firing Bruce Boudreau and hiring Capitals legend, Dale Hunter as coach and ended up with the 7th seed for the playoffs.  Their first round opponent were the Boston Bruins, the defending Stanley Cup Champions.  Everyone, I mean, EVERYONE expected a short series with the Bruins coming out on top.  Enter, Braden Holtby, who was the third string goaltender who ended up playing the last two games of the season and became the playoff starting goaltender after injuries to both Michal Neuvirth and Tomas Vokoun.  Holtby was outstanding, posting a shutout during regulation. Problem is, Tim Thomas also posted a shutout during regulation.  Holtby gave up a goal in 1:18 of the OT period to lose the game.  For the next 5 games the Holtby and Capitals shocked everyone fighting the Bruins tooth and nail to force a game 7.  The Capitals eventually won game 7 in OT, making it the forth time in this 7 game series to go into overtime.  Everyone one of the 7 games were decided by one goal.  That was an NHL record.

In the next round they were up against the #1 seed, the Rangers.  Back and forth Holtby battled against Henrik Lundqvist going into game 5 tied.  In game 5, the Capitals had a two goal lead up to the last 22 seconds of the game, when Joel Ward got caught up into a battle for position  during an defensive faceoff bringing his stick up for a double minor penalty.  During the ensuing PP, the Rangers tied it up with only 6 seconds left in regulation.  They then scored again in the OT period, during the 2nd half of the double minor to win the game.  I personally thought this win for the Rangers was the changing point of the series.  Despite going back to Washington for game 6, the momentum was all in the Rangers favor.

However, the Capitals came out hard in game 6 and completely dominated the game (despite giving up a goal late to make it another 1 goal game, the Capitals still dominated the game).  Back to New York were both team going for game 7.  I could've been more happier.  Now the pressure was all on the Rangers, and the Capitals had taken away the momentum from the Rangers.  I was wrong.  The Capitals came out flat in the first period, giving up a goal to Brad Richards 1:32 into the game.  The play was a complete break down in defensive assignments allowing Brad Richards time and space to score with a beauty of a shot.

The Capitals came out in the second strong...but failed to score.  Then came the third period.  It was sad the effort the Capitals gave.  They gave up another goal about the half way make of the 3rd period, only to get to within 1 goal when the Capitals scored 38 seconds later.  The Capitals were mostly lethargic for the entire period.  A golden opportunity arose when Ruslan Fedotenko threw the puck over the glass for a delay of game penalty less than a minute later.  What occurred during the next two minutes was a tragedy.  The resulting powerplay was abysmal.  Not only did the Capitals not get a shot on goal, but the Rangers were robbed of a short handed goal.  My heart sank after that powerplay because I knew that the Capitals were not going to win this game.  The Capitals only mustered four shots on goal in that last 20 minutes.  4 shots.  No one is going to beat a top notched goaltender like Lundqvist with only 4 shots on goal.

So, the Capitals go home yet again, without making it past the 2nd round of the playoffs.  Despite only being the 7th seed, and having a rookie goalie in net for the entire playoffs, the Capitals should have won against the Rangers, but yet again, a lethargic display occurred in a pivotal time of game 7.  Golf time.

There are many questions that need to be answered during the off season.  Will Dale Hunter come back as head coach?  What will happen with Alexander Semin (who I hope has the door hit him on the ass on his way out)?  What about Dennis Wideman (good riddance I say)?  Or Jeff Schultz (why this guy doesn't hit anyone is beyond me)?  How about Mike Green (who is a RFA this off season)?  Will Ovechkin stay as the captain?   Most importantly, will George McPhee stay as general manager after 14 years at the helm?  These are some of the questions I hope get answered with a NO (with the exception of Hunter), especially after, yet another disappointing season.

Saturday, May 12, 2012

5 Minute Stories

Hello everyone.

Everyone loves a good story.  We read about them in books, magazines or newspapers.  We watch them on television or in movies.  And sometimes we even play them in games.  In the past people used to listen to stories on the radio, or around the campfire.

It seems the art of audible story telling is a bit lacking in today's society.  So, I'm hoping you can help me.  I want to start up a small little project, just for fun.  I would like to start up a blog that contains nothing but links to audio files that contain what I call "5 Minute Stories."

I would like people to take a few minutes out of their busy schedules and send me an audio file containing a 5 minute story.  Now I don't expect them to be exactly 5 minutes, I just want them to be close to 5 minutes.

These stories can be funny, or scary.  They can be true or fiction.  They can be happy or sad.  I don't care.  The only restriction I am placing is that they are PG.  Nothing too racy, or I will refuse to post the stories.

If you want to submit a story, please send the audio file (preferably mp3 format) to 5minutestories@gmail.com with the following information.

Your first name.
Your age.
And where you live

Thank you, and am hoping to hear the story.

Friday, May 11, 2012

Greetings...

Since I'm trying to lose weight, I started to exercise more.  The weather was absolutely gorgeous today, so I decided to walk around Christchurch Park, here in Ipswich.

During my walk, I approached two elderly ladies walking on the path towards me.  For reasons unknown to me, as I was passing them, I smiled and greeted them, "Good afternoon, ladies."  The both looked surprised, smiled and returned the greeting back to me.  As I was walking away from them, I heard one lady say to the other, "People just don't greet each other like they used to do.  That was very pleasant."

You know, she's right.  People don't greet each other any more.  Why is that, do you think?  How hard is it to acknowledge someone and say "good morning," or "good evening?"   The exchange I had with the two ladies lasted probably a total of 10 seconds, but I bet the memory of it will probably last much longer than that.

So let's take a few seconds of our day, acknowledge someone and greet them.


The Past

The past keeps haunting me.

No matter what I do, mistakes I've done 5 or even 10 years ago keep coming back and biting me in the ass.

I even moved to a completely different country hoping to escape those mistakes, and yet they keep cropping up.

It sucks.

But I guess that is life. :)

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Design Changes

Sorry for the format changes I'm doing on the blog.  I'm playing around with the various template to find one I like the most.  Once I find it, I promise there won't be that many changes. :)

Game 7 Here We Go!

I'm tired.  Really tired.  That's what I get for going to our home group from church, which ran late as usual, then getting home to grab a quick hour and a half of sleep before getting up a 0030 for game 6 between the Washington Capitals and the New York Rangers.  Then, of course, the game ended at roughly 0330, but as usual, I have to watch the post game show as well.  So I didn't get back to sleep until 0345 or so.


And it was well worth it.


The Capitals needed to win this game to force a game 7.  They lost a rough game 5 in New York when in the waning seconds of the game, the Rangers tied it up, and then scored in the OT period to win the game, putting them up 3-2 in the series.  Game 5 is one of the reasons these playoff series are a best of 7 rather than single elimination.


The Capitals played a great game, winning it 2 - 1.  Now off to New York for Game 7 at Madison Square Gardens.  Can't get any better than a Game 7.   These tight games are exciting to watch.  With the exception of the first game (in which the Rangers won 3 - 1) each game has been a one goal game.  Yet again the Capitals are up against a top seed (Bruins were the number 2 seed in the east, and the Rangers were the number 1 seed) and put the pressure all on them.  


Whatever Dale Hunter, as the head coach, is telling his players, he needs to continue doing it.  Last night, Alexander Ovechkin played just over 15 minutes, well below his average prior to this season.  In that 15 minutes he had a goal, 3 shots on goal, 4 hits and two blocked shots.  He also hit the crossbar once, and had multiple chances to score, including this one while spinning around on his ass on the ice.  As Mike Milbury said in response to Keith Jones' "classic Ovechkin" comment.  This is more than classic Ovechkin.  This is a man who has bought into the team concept that Dale Hunter is telling his team.  Classic Ovechkin would have had 2 goals, 5 shots on goal, 6 hits and be on the ice for 3 goals against.  This Ovechkin is the Ovechkin who deserves to wear that 'C' on his chest.  This Ovechkin will lead this team to greatness.


Back to Dale Hunter for a second.  What a coach.  Everyone in the media had hung Joel Ward out to dry for his high sticking double minor that was the catalyst for the heartbreaking comeback by the Rangers in game 5.  Hunter mentioned in his press conference after the game that it was an "accidental high stick."  That it was just a hockey play.  Instead of throwing him under the bus, he defended his player.  What was even more great was that he started Ward in game 6.  As a coach he knew that Ward needed to get the high stick penalty behind him and what a better way to do that than to have confidence in the guy by starting him in the very next game.  That is what makes a coach great.


So, as I mentioned, the Capitals and the Rangers close out this series on Saturday in New York City, the same place they started it.  This series is the perfect example of what playoff hockey is all about.


Capitals win 4-2 (finally getting the EN) to close out the series 4 games to 3.


LET'S GO CAPS!

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Cell Phones in the UK.

Apparently, in the United Kingdom, everyone and their brother, especially teenagers have cell phones.  They spend their entire day on these devices.  They use them to access twitter, facebook, and other social networking sites.  They video chat, they text, and they take pictures using these phones.  The one thing they do NOT do is talk.  Not sure why, but hey, who am I to argue.  According to them, I'm just an old man (not that 42 is old. :P).


Anyways, I digress.  The point I'm making is that kids in the United Kingdom seem to only interact with each other via these phones.  This causes problems with teenagers when they move to a new area (or country) and try to make friends.  It seems that if you want to make friends, then they need a cell phone.  Here lies a problem.  What if you are trying to establish yourself in a new country, don't make a lot of money, and you have a spouse 7000+ miles away waiting for a visa?


One of my teenage daughters asked for a cell phone for her birthday.  I told her that if we could afford it I would be happy to get one for her.  I understand how hard it can be to make friends without one.  However, I also mentioned that there might not be possible and that she should understand that.  Well as it goes, Tesco had a great deal on some phones that were going out of stock because they were no longer going to carry them any more.


So my wife and I rushed to Tesco to buy some phones.  Everything was going well, until the clerk mentioned something about a credit check.  My heart skipped.  I told him that might be an issue since I hadn't been in the country very long (less than a year).  He immediately was apologetic and said that there was no way I going to pass a credit check because they normally are looking for people who have lived in the country 3 or more years. 


So we left empty handed.  I went to other network stores, but none of them had a great deal like the Tesco one.


Fast forward about a month.  Last night, I was picking up my kids from their youth group at the church.  My son said that it was too bad that I had picked them up because it was actually a very nice evening and he kind of thought walking home would be nice.  I mentioned that too bad that one of them didn't have a phone they could have called me at home to say not bother.  


My statement caused the daughter who wanted a phone for her birthday to go into hissy about not having a fun.  For almost two hours she went on and on about how I didn't want them to have friends, how I "promised" her a phone on her birthday, blah blah blah.  It went on and on.  I snapped and started to yell at her to stop, eventually it ended with me giving her my cell phone.  I reset the phone to factory settings and gave it to her.


I feel bad that I am not able to buy a phone for my children.  I try my best.  For 9 months I was out of work trying to get another job when I was let go from my last one.  I banged my head against the wall when I was in Virginia, almost to the point of where I was starting to feel a bit suicidal.  I felt like a failure.  I felt inadequate.  Eventually that led me to leave my family and go to the UK.  After 4 months of being in the UK, I finally got a job.  I spent all my money to bring my family over to the UK, I found a house, bought a car, and started to find furniture from Freecycle (great service by the way) so that my family could be comfortable when they arrived. 


After more than 5 months of separation, I finally was reunited with my family.  Life was great...Until my children tried to find friends and this whole thing about cell phones started.  


Why is it that kids feel they need a gadget in order for them to make friends?  Why not just talk with kids?  But they don't.  So, because of how our society is now, I now no longer have a cell phone, and I am under pressure to go and buy my other children one as well.


Life is no longer about interaction with people, it is now about interaction with gadgets.  Sad.

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Jebediah

This is a story that I'm in the middle of writing.  It isn't much, at the moment.  But I'm hoping you like it.  Also, if you have any suggestions as to where the story should go, please express them.  Maybe we could make this a little bit of a collaborative effort. :)


Anyways, enjoy.


     “Samson, it’s hot. Very hot.” Jebediah said, wiping his brow with the rag he kept in his back pocket. The donkey gave him a blank look. “Haha. Yup,I know. Yous agree.”
    Jebediahodiah gently pulled at the reigns of the donkey, “Com’on girl, we still got plenty of sun ahead of us and de miles ain’t gunna’ put demselves behin us.“
    The sun caused shimmers to appear at the horizon of the barren desert, causing the illusion of water. Being born and raised in the desert wasteland, Jebediah knew better. The desert is endless, Jebediah has traveled in every direction for as long as he’s able from Lost Vegas and has never seen the end of it. North, south, east, west, northeast, it didn’t matter which direction, the desert continued. In some areas the desert was only sand, others nothing more than scrub bushes were evident of any life. Survival in the desert was hard. Water was a precious commodity, and as valuable as gold.
    Jebediah has heard of stories of a great body of water to the west, but has never seen it. “Pack Sick It” they called it. What a strange name for water. Jebediah laughed at the caravaners when they told him of it. Water? That much? That much water has never been heard of. Jebediah remembered seeing a barrel filled with water once. He was about 7 years old, when his father took him to one of the local market towns. His mouth watered when he recalled that memory, so many years ago. Licking his cracked lips, he continued walking towards the distant mountains.
    For days, Jebediah and his donkey, Samson walked in the scorching desert. Stopping only to make camp for the night. Most nights, Jebediah would only open up a can of pork and beans that he scavenged from from various abandon homes, or caravans he came across in his travels. He used an old bucket he found at a dried up well to hold the oat and grass feed Samson. Occasionally, however, he would decide on making a hot meal and would build a fire to cook some dried or salted meat he bought from the last market town he passed through. He used an old cast iron dutch oven, filled it with water, added a small chunk of meat, a potato, a carrot and some spice that he carried in a small pouch at his side.  He would bury the entire pot, cover and all into the middle of the coals in the. Leaning back he would take out an old leather bound book and slowly flip through the pages as he hummed or talked to Samson.
    Tonight was one of those occasional nights. As Jebediah was paging through the old book and humming to himself, there was a sharp crack as a branch or twig was broken at a clump of bushes near his camp.
    Yous might as well come out and show yeself. Udderrwise, I might have to pull my pistol and fire off some shots into those bushes yous are hidin behind,” Jebediah drawled, slowly raising to his feet.
    “Com’on. I ain’t gunna hurt you, ‘less yous try to put a hurtin on me first. I might be n’ol man, but I ain’t been travelin around this here desert for this long if I ain’t able to defend meself.”
    “I's give you a count of tree before I start shootin’.”
    “One...” Nothing. No sound came from behind the bushes. The old six shot revolver was already out of Jebediah’s holster and pointing towards the bushes.
    “Two...” Jebediah pulled the hammer of the revolver back with a loud metallic click that rang through the night.
    “WAIT!” a small voice called out. Slowly a small figure rose up from behind the bushes, revealing a young girl around fifteen or sixteen in age. “Please! Don’t shoot.”
    “Watcha doin’ back der?” asked Jebediah.
    “I’m sorry, I saw your fire from a distance and came to check it out. I hid in the bushes because I didn’t know if you were dangerous.”
    “Wat’s yous name?”
    “Patricia. Patricia O’Seighn. But everyone calls me Patsy.”
    Wells, com’on. I ain’t gunna bite. Lets me take a look atcha,” Jebediah smiled as he put away his revolver and settled back down in front of the fire. “If yous hungry, dinna will be ready shortly. Git youself settled an’ tell me yous story. Yous gotta ‘ave a story if yous be out dere in the desert alone. A girl like yous ain’t gunna last long outs ‘ere. So plop yers boney ass down by dis fire an' tell ol’ Jebediah all about it.”
    Patsy cautiously moved out from behind the bushes and sat down across the fire next to Samson. Samson eyed her briefly before continuing to munch on his feed from the old bucket. Patsy nervously tugged at the end of the ponytail of her long reddish blond hair and started to talk in a hollowed out voice. “My father, brother and I were moving to the west after my mother died from the Trotter Virus.”
    “Five days ago, our caravan was attacked by bandits. As was planned for such an occasion, as the men, my father and brother included, tried to defend the caravan, the rest of us would run and hide any place we could find. We were able to find a small cave that was blocked by an outcrop of rocks.”
    “We could hear the bandits crashing around the rocks, calling after us. But they never found us. After the third day, I left our hiding spot and returned to the caravan. Their naked bodies were laid out in a neat row. The horses were all killed, skinned and butchered, and our wagons were all torched. The bandits took or destroyed everything. Not a single stitch of clothing, food or water was left.”
    The bandits knew that we were close and they also knew that we wouldn’t survive long in the desert without any provisions. I tried to convince the other women that we needed to move, but they refused. So I left them. Not until after I helped bury our men.”
    My father used to take my brother and I out to the woods for camping. He taught us to survive off the land. Even during the trip he would point out plants and animals. He would tell us their dangers and benefits for each. So I knew that I could survive some time out in the desert.”
    When I saw your fire, I was ecstatic because I hadn’t been able to find water for over a day and a half, and I knew that I would need some soon or I would die.”
    Well,” Jebediah smiled. “I’s got wahter an som’ food fer yous. If yous wish it.” He tossed her the water skin.
    Go ons. Drink yer fill. I gots plenty an’ we ain’t dat far from more.”
    The water was cold and soothing going down Patsy’s throat. She drank as much as she could possibly drink without causing her to get sick... She slowly lowered the water skin, looked at Jebediah with a haunting look and burst into tears.
    Go ons, git it out, sweetie.” Jebediah whispered as he rushed to her side and put a comforting arm around her shoulders. “Yous must mourn yer pops and brudder.  Shh, shh. Dat’s alraight. Yous go head an cry.”
    Patsy buried her face into Jebediah’s chest and sobbed deeply. The sobbing continued for what seemed like hours. Slowly her sobs subsided and she raised her tear streaked dirty face to Jebediah.
    Com’on, sweetie. Dinners done. Let’s git some food in yer.”
Patsy watched as Jebediah used a long stick to pull the dutch oven out from the fire and used a cloth to remove the lid. Her mouth watered when she smelled the spicy stew that wafted from the pot.
    What is it?” She asked.
    Some rabbit and snake...I think. I normally don’t ask wat the meat is. I’s don’t wanna know.” Jebediah smiled.
    Go on, git some an give it a try it.”
    Patsy let out a small laugh and smiled as she reached for the bowl of steaming stew Jebediah offered her. Jebediah smiled back, grabbed his bowl of stew and settled back down in his spot across from the fire from Patsy. Silently the both ate the stew. Pausing only to drink some water from the skin, or wipe some dribble from their chins. Without a word, Jebediah rose from the ground, gathered the bowls, spoons and started to wash them using dried sand as a scourer. Jebediah hummed as he worked and Patsy watched.
    Again, without a word, and when the bowls, pot and stew were stowed away on
Samson, Jebediah settled down in his spot, took out his book and slowly paged through it.
    “What book is that?” asked Patsy, curious.
    “I dunno.” answered Jebediah. “I’s can’t read. Is just like lookin’ at de words.”
    “Do you want me to read it to you?”
    “Can yous? Is never seen anybody knowing hows to read before. Wheres did you learn it?” asked Jebediah, curiously.
    “My father taught me to read when I was a child when we lived in New York City. Each night he would make me read a page of a book called 'Gone with the Wind.' I loved those times,” she responded. She stifled a sob that wanted to burst out of her chest as she recalled the wonderful times she had with her father.
    Patsy took the book from Jebediah, sat down next to him and leaned over it. The leather bound was smooth and worn. The words on the cover were rubbed out, long ago. Patsy slowly opened up the book and flipped to the beginning of the book.
    “The Old Testiment. Genesis, chapter 1...”
    “Wat does ‘Genesis’ mean?” asked Jebediah?
    “I think it means ‘beginning or origin,” Patsy answered looking at jebediah. “Let’s read some more and see what it says.”
    “Genesis, chapter 1. ‘In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth.’”
    “Huh? Whos is dis God person?”
    “I’m not sure. But if he created the heaven and the earth, then he must be a power person. Shall I continue?”
    “Yup, please.”
    “In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth. In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth. And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters. And God said, Let there be light: and there was light. And God saw the light, that it was good: and God divided the light from the darkness...”
    Patsy continued reading for hours. Both Jebediah and Patsy were both engrossed in the words that were flowing from the volume. Entranced.
    Finally, after yawning three times in a row, Jebediah called that they quit for the night. Gently he took the book from Patsy’s hands and stashed it back into his jacket. They both granted each other “good night” and drifted off to sleep.

UPDATE:  I'm sorry about the formatting of the story.  I wrote it using LibreOffice and the posting of the story removed some of the paragraphing formatting I had set up.  I'll try to fix it...later. :)  - Paul