Bitterness Becomes a Homecoming...Soon

Date: Wed, 26 Sep 2012 11:35:22 -0400

Dear Applicant,

Your appeal against your UK visa refusal has been reviewed by an Entry Clearance Manager.

The ECM has overturned the original decision and is satisfied you meet the requirements of the Immigration Rules. Your visa will now be issued.

If you submitted your passport at the time of appeal, your entry clearance will shortly be issued. You will receive an email notifying you of this and providing you with a return UPS tracking number.

If you did not submit your passport at the time of appeal please send it back to us as soon as possible in order for your entry clearance to be issued. The envelope should be clearly marked for the attention of the Appeals Officer. You should also enclose a money order for $12, payable to the British Consulate General, in order for your passport and visa to be returned to you via overnight delivery by UPS.

Kind Regards,

New York Visa Team
UK Border Agency
British Consulate-General
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That was an email my wife received yesterday evening (morning for her).  After almost 6 months of being separated, my wife is finally close to being home.  Since we did not include her passport with the appeal, she will need to send the passport back to the embassy for them to process the actual visa.

5 months, 21 days.    174 total days.  4,176 hours.  250,560 minutes.

A long time.   Even though it isn't quite over, we know that it will be sooner rather than later.  Me, my wife and my kids along with all the friends and family who stated as such on facebook are very happy and excited with this wonderful news.

Almost 6 months of being separated is a very long time.  The world would look at this specific situation and put blame on the system.  But I know better.  The reason this ordeal was long and arduous was because of my heart.

You see, I've been harboring bitterness and hatred in my heart for a very long time.  This bitterness was revealed to me about 3 weeks ago.  I was talking with a friend at my church.  I was explaining to him the frustration I was feeling because of the delay with the appeal.  I mentioned to him how I was thinking about calling the Citizen's Advice Bureau (CAB), probe my Member of Parliament, contact a lawyer that deals with immigration & visa, and even contact the media.  I was so fed up with the situation that I was desperate to do anything.

This friend of mine prayed with me.  However, not only did he pray that the Lord would overcome the hurdles the process put up, but he also prayed that the Lord would take away the bitterness from my heart.  He laid hands on my chest and urged the Lord to soften my heart.

I was dumbstruck.

That Monday, I tried to contact the CAB without any success.  I then tried to contact a lawyer via email, only to have them respond that the solicitor who handled immigration issues was on maternity leave and wouldn't be back until April next year.

I was prepared to start an email to two major news outlets here in Britain, with me CCing my MP in the email, when the prayer from that past Sunday popped into my mind.  I realized at that moment that I didn't need to do anything.  All the things I was trying to do was out of bitterness.  Instead of making a mess of things by contacting the media, or other means that might cost me a fortune, the Lord reminded me that I just need to release everything to Him.  Which I did.

I prayed that the Lord would just give me a peace about this, and help soften my heart.  After that quick prayer, I truly did feel at peace.

Later that evening, a letter from HM Courts & Tribunal Service was on my door step when I got home from work.  It was a letter stating that the Respondent  (the British Embassy from NY) had reversed their decision and withdrew the appeal.  My heart jumped.

When I called the hotline on the letter, I was informed that officially the only thing they could say was that the appeal was withdrawn.  However, the girl did say that 90% of the time in a situation like this was because the embassy was going to issue the visa.  She told me to expect something from the embassy soon.

So we waited.

Days became a week.  A week became two.   I could feel the frustration building.  What was taking so long?

On Tuesday, during lunch, I prayed again.  Lord, take this bitterness from me.  Soften my heart.  Give me peace again regarding this situation.

Wednesday, after I got home from work, I get a facebook chat message from Carol that she received the above email. 

Too many coincidences for this just to be by chance.  I can't believe that.  This truly has to be the Lord's work.

I know that I have a long way to go before I'm at the point where the Lord truly wants me.  But one thing I do know.  This separation was not only because of a bureaucratic process.  It was also due to the Lord dealing with a bitter man.  This bitter man.

For that, I thank Him.

Bitterness in the Heart

As many of you are aware, my wife, Carol, is currently in the United States awaiting her settlement visa from the British government.

The initial application was refused because there was no evidence supplied that I was a British citizen.  What happened was I thought I sent Carol along with my birth certificate, but I didn't, and it wasn't known until after the refusal when I was able to account for all the copies of my birth certificate here with me in England.

So we submitted an appeal, and since they requested only copies of supporting documentation, I provided my wife with scanned copies of my birth certificate and UK passport.

Weeks turned into a month, and then it was two months.  The frustration of the wait, and not knowing what was going on was building.  I was getting desperate.  

I was prepared to contact the media (the Guardian and the Independent).  I was also prepared to contact the Citizens Advice Bureau.  

I was talking with a wonderful man at church (Rob).  I was explaining to him everything I was prepared to do, and about the mounting frustration I was feeling.  He asked to pray for me.  Not only did he pray that the Lord would overcome the hurdles put in place by bureaucracy but he also prayed that the Lord would prevent bitterness from building up in my heart.

Then it struck me.  That is exactly what I was allowing to happen.  The frustration from the process caused me to become bitter towards the British government. 

On Monday, as I was still contemplating sending emails to the Guardian and the Independent, and lawyers, and probing my MP (member of Parliament), etc.  I stopped.  I prayed that the Lord would just give me a peace about this entire situation and not allow the bitterness to creep into my heart.

That evening when I got home, there was a letter from HM Courts & Tribunal Service saying that the Respondent (UK Embassy in NYC) had reversed the original decision and that the Tribunal was satisfied that the appeal had been withdrawn.  Of course, in excitement, I called the hotline the very next day.  Unfortunately, the person was not able to provide me with any official status outside the fact that the appeal was withdrawn by the respondent.  However, she did say that 90% of the time this was because they planned on providing a visa.

I received the Appeal Withdrawal notice on the 10th of September.  It has now been two weeks since, again with no further details.  Again the frustration is starting to creep in.  And with the frustration, the bitterness as well.

So, I am appealing to all my brothers and sisters in Christ that they will pray for me.  Pray that the Lord will help me stave off this bitterness and to again give me the peace regarding this situation.  Bitterness only leads to darkness and I can't afford to fall into darkness again.  For my children's sake, my wife's sake and for my marriage sake, pray for me.